Growing up, the childhood I thought was “normal” was anything but that. I just was not aware of it until I was in my late 30s, and I tried to escape that life and began the journey to heal. You see, from the early ages of 2-3, my mother began exploiting my body by having me dance on a bar for men. Then she turned it into a game for me to play when the men came into our house, forcing me to do unthinkable things and letting them — as well as herself — use my body for their pl

Xquisite has experienced a rise in requests for resources from survivors experiencing severe long-term trauma. The survivors we have seen in the last few days have exhibited extreme paranoia, multiple personalities, and dissociative behaviors. When someone experiences sexual trauma this severe, compassion must be extended as we navigate the best resources to offer. These survivors do not trust anyone since everyone who should have been safe exploited them and placed them in v

I imagine most of you go to the grocery store, out to lunch or even just take a walk around your neighborhood without having to even think about it right? It is part of your everyday routine, and it comes naturally. But what if it wasn’t that easy or safe? I want you for just a second to think: would you be able to do it blindfolded? Would you still find it easy or safe? For some like me who have a history of abuse and trauma just simple tasks like these can be overwhelming

“I’m homeless right now. I’m just trying to survive. I think I have to go back to the industry.” This recent conversation with an Xquisite “diamond” (client) shot an arrow deep into my heart. She left sexual exploitation, she has no family support, and is living in the San Francisco area going to a community art school with huge dreams to get her degree and ultimately film a documentary telling her story of being sexually exploited and sold from a young age. She is excelling

When was your first sexual experience? Was it kind, gentle and consensual? For so many, including myself, this was not the case. April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month. This is a hard month for so many suffering in silence. Reliving the nightmare, the feelings, the emotions of what was taken from us. For me, as someone who has been assaulted numerous times every week for over 39 years, starting with my mother and her satanic obsession with my body, led to her sending a varie

An 18-year-old girl was raped by her 45-year old driving instructor who was taking her to her very first driving lesson. He took her to an isolated road, pulled her out of the car, removed her jeans and forcefully raped her. She reported the rape and the perpetrator was arrested and prosecuted. He was then convicted of rape and sentenced to jail. Years later, he appealed the conviction claiming that the sex was consensual, leading the Italian Supreme Court to overturn the con

Recently while out with my daughter celebrating her birthday we decided to stop and grab dinner before going home. While we were waiting for our food she was visiting with a previous teacher and overheard part of a conversation that her grandmother came up and had with me. This resulted in my daughter shutting down and not wanting to celebrate. After we left and got home, she would barely eat and when going to bed asked me, “If the celebration for her birthday with friends on

The history of women is filled with champions who would never consider that title as a part of their legacy. They just showed up, they invested time and energy into what needed justice and light and in doing so empowered generations and communities. Legacies last. It is indeed a rare experience to see what can occur when you surround yourself with women that will champion you and mention your name in a room full of opportunities. Recently it has been my honor to share and p