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Be Yourself

I came across this and it got me to do some heavy thinking. For a long time, I struggled with this. I was a young mom and quickly had to learn sacrifice for another. It was hard being labeled as “a teen mom” and then divorced before I was even 21. Yep. “Be yourself” was a joke. It was swim or drown and I had to swim real hard to stay afloat. I struggled with trust. I had friends, but I felt I had to be someone else in order to be accepted. Be available whenever a gathering was taking place and dress a certain way (even though I was completely broke). I was everything everyone else expected of me and I was exhausted!! I lived like that for a long long time. 



Many years later, I had enough. I realized that I can’t please everyone. Not everyone is going to like me. I’m not going to be someone else for someone else (yes, I have lost relationships because of this, but were they true relationships if that’s the case?) Nope! I’m raw, transparent, silly at times, sad sometimes, curious, creative, servant-hearted, a little chunky, fearful of rejection but fearless of purpose, gifted, blessed, etc. One thing for sure, I’m not perfect and would never claim to be. I’m just me, simple as that. Take it or leave it. And while I’m still exhausted, it’s all for good reason. I’m living life!


Who are you? Are you being true to yourself? Be who you are meant to be. If you struggle with that, let me know. While we are not meant to be perfect, we were designed perfectly. We have flaws, but we must always allow for grace and humility. It’s ok to not have it together all the time, but no matter what, remain true to you and don’t let our ugly society tell you otherwise. You are loved because “yourself” is pretty damn awesome (yes, I swear sometimes. Again, not perfect)


Written by: Cindy Crume Mayo


Cindy Crume Mayo

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